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February, 2007
Hanging Out
Month: Feb 2007
Title Hanging Out
Date: Volume 9 Issue 2
When I was standing on the corner in the Bronx years ago I looked around me and saw who I was hanging out with. People named Tex, Rats, Peanuts, and Lefty. I often hung out on a rock in a park with people who scared me. I remember asking myself, “Are these the kind of people I want in my life?”
I eventually escaped the neighborhood and people in my group and went to Spain. There I began to change my life. However, I found myself in an unhealthy relationship and once again I asked, "Are these the kind of people I want in my life?"
Later, working for a corporation and hanging out with people after work I saw that they drank a lot and weren’t motivated to move up in the organization. Again, I asked myself, "Are these the kind of people I want in my life?"
Years later when I went into business for myself I found myself with other new business owners. Many were negative and in a "victim mode". Once again I asked myself, "Are these the kind of people I want in my life?"
Through the years I’ve changed, grown and transformed. However there has been one steady question that I’ve asked about the people in my life…. “Are these the kind of people I want in my life?”
Goals are wonderful to have in your life. However, without people you cannot reach your goals. Without people you cannot be a leader, manager or successful in any area of your life. However you control who influences your life. You control who you allow to inspire you or infect you. You decide daily whether you have friends and associates who nurture you, believe in you, and who want more for you than you can imagine for yourself. Daily you get to ask yourself “Are these the kind of people I want in my life?”
I have friends who have a sign in their meeting room that says “We Don’t Work With Jerks. We Work With Clients We Love” They are enormously successful. They give TREMENDOUS value and truly treat their clients with ‘love’. They have ‘fired’ a few clients in their twenty years of business.
I’ve surrounded myself with people who cheer me on and who celebrate who I am. One is Josh Hinds. Josh is the founder of GetMotivation.com and he is wonderful. Josh also questioned himself about the kind of people he wanted in his life. He is so amazing at what he does that he created a life where he is surrounded by some of most positive, supportive people in the world. He surrounds himself with people who empower others as a living but also people that want to be empowered. His newsletter is one of the most read in the world and his site is a treasure trove of power. Josh is one of my cheerleaders. I can count on him for an encouraging word, a electronic hug or pat on the back. Check him out at Getmotivation.com and receive his newsletter. He is one person you want in your life.
Everyone you meet, every person you seek to be part of your network and all the people you dream of associating with should receive a resounding “YES!” When you ask yourself “Are these the kind of people I want in my life?”
If you say no, then it is up to you to let them go or, at the very least, set up strong boundaries so that they don’t 'infect' you with their attitudes, beliefs or destructive energy.
It comes back to you, and me, we are responsible for asking the question and then taking action. We, you and I, are the leaders in our lives, work, family and community. It is up to us to ensure that we surround ourselves with people who nurture, teach and support us.
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In this months leadership e-zine you will find:- Pegine's Thought of the Month
- Quote of the Month
- Try-its - Simple Steps for Magnificent Rewards
- Kick Butt Actions - Strategies to make an impact
- News from Pegine
- Have You?
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Pegine's Thought of the Month:
"People decide who you are by who you associate with"
~Pegine Echevarria, MSW
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Quotes of the Month:
"Associate yourself with men of good quality if you esteem your own reputation. It is better be alone than in bad company."
~George Washington
"You must constantly ask yourself these questions: Who am I around? What are they doing to me? What have they got me reading? What have they got me saying? Where do they have me going? What do they have me thinking? And most important, what do they have me becoming? Then ask yourself the big question: Is that okay? Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change."
~Jim Rohn
"Every man becomes, to a certain degree, what the people he generally converses with are."
~Philip Dormer Stanhope
"We gain nothing by being with such as ourselves. We encourage one another in mediocrity. I am always longing to be with men more excellent than myself."
~ Charles Lamb
"Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher."
~Oprah Winfrey
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Try-its:
Have pen and paper ready. Set a timer for five minutes. Write the following question down "If I can choose the characteristics of the people I spend time with they would be..." Take five minutes and write about these imaginary people.- Where would they live?
- What are their goals?
- What kinds of jobs would they have?
- What is their financial situation?
- Why do you admire them?
- What do you hope to learn from them?
Now think of your current friends and associates? Do they meet your dream friends and associates? If not, have the courage to seek, ask for and reach out to people who fit your dream friends and associates.
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Kick-butt actions:
Challenge yourself and be courageous
It is hard to change and too often people stay in relationships that aren’t positive relationships, because they are afraid to hurt the other person’s feelings. Rarely does a person consider how the relationship is hurting them. When someone thinks "I can handle it", "it's okay", or "It has been this way for a long time", they are usually in denial and have given up their power, their purpose, their dreams for someone else, who may or may even be thinking of you.
Do you say it is okay when someone continually asks you at the office to get them coffee. Unless it is in your job description, allow them to get the coffee for themselves. Ask yourself, are you being kind or are you feeling like you have no other choice? You always have another choice you know.
At a conference approach the leaders of the organization. Ask them about their speech, their thoughts on a particular subject or how they entered the field. Challenge yourself and be courageous. Most of what we think people are thinking is hogwash! In truth we have no idea what they are thinking. We only know what we think they are thinking and what we are thinking about ourselves. Too often our thoughts sabotage our relationships. Surround yourself with wonderful, supportive information and change yourself. Read Pegine's newsletter archive and sign up for Josh Hinds newsletter at www.Getmotivation.com
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Have You?- Called and made a date to see a friend that you really like?
- Invited someone you just met and really connected with for coffee or breakfast?
- Stopped participating in boring, routine social gatherings that don't fill you with joy?
- Told someone how important they are to you?
- Danced a slow dance with someone you love lately?
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- Try its - Incremental, step by step techniques that take you a little further to a being the leader
you were meant to be
- Kick Butt Actions- Life changing strategies that immediately propel you to a new level.
ach action takes courage Pegine shares what she learned a long time ago that courage = fear plus action.
So, feel the fear and kick butt anyway!
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